Cheryl Fidelman

I unconsciously gave 25 years of my life to Codependence.  That is, I was on autopilot. It was automatic. I saw other people as more valuable than me, more important than me and more desired than me.
 

My mother saw people this way, and I adopted her lens. I felt like everyone treated me like shit – but maybe my feeling like shit came first, and their behaviour came second. 


I don’t fully trust memories as an exact replica of what happened because the mind tends to bend and contort things with time & hindsight, but I do feel strongly that Codependence ran the trajectory of just about the first half of my life. 


I’m free from it now, and on a daily basis I support others in walking towards their freedom.  Yes, it took being raised by a psychopathic mother who almost killed my father, 30 years of therapy, 10 years of 12-step programs, 30 plant medicine journeys, several year-long healing programs, weekend trainings, countless healing modalities, 2 wildly abusive boyfriends and over $100k to separate from my Codependence and return to my True Nature. 

Now, I want to help diminish Codependence in the human condition, so more people have a specific roadmap to heal their own trauma, access deep, intimate, healthy relationships, and live as who they were designed to be.